When Mother’s Day is tender

Mothering Sunday is just on the horizon, and we know that this can be an especially painful day for many of our courageous community. The marketing campaigns are already in full swing, and they can bring triggers wherever you look. Many companies now offer thoughtful opt-out options relating to Mother’s Day, which is a start, but clicking ‘I do not want to hear about Mother’s Day’ can be a pocket of grief within itself. We see you and your aching hearts. 

Mother’s Day can feel complicated and distressing for so many reasons. Whether you have recently lost your beloved baby, are quietly hoping for a sibling to join your family following secondary infertility or are navigating the peaks and troughs of pregnancy after loss, we are holding you all in our thoughts.  

Perhaps your own fertility journey has also altered your relationship with your own mother, or the mother figures in your life? Sometimes for the better, but often for the worse, if you have been met with dismissive comments surrounding your losses or struggles. Nobody needs to hear ‘at least’ statements, especially around Mother’s Day.  

Here at MISS, we hope you can do whatever feels most soothing to you this year. You may choose to check out some of our self-care ideas to help cocoon yourself in beautiful and nourishing practices. Perhaps you will want to revisit ways of including your little ones in your day. Or you simply might hide under a duvet until it is all over, and that is entirely okay too! You do not need to take huge steps in your healing journey, especially during this particularly difficult time. Above all, wewish you compassion and kindness. Can you think of one small way you might like to fill your cup this month?  

Please remember that our caring Support Team are available to connect with through one-to-ones, Virtual Support Groups and our new Cuppas and Crafts creative sessions. We meet you exactly where you are in your grief journey; you don’t need to pretend that everything is fine or worry that your emotions will be too much. You are so very welcome to chat with us, from the comfort of your own home, in your cosiest clothes. We also love when emotional support pets join our calls, so feel free to curl up with your four-legged friends; we’ll be delighted to meet them.  

If you are local to Aberdeen, we just want to remind you that MISS and Aberdeen SANDS have partnered to create our tranquil Forget-Me-Not memorial garden. This space has been thoughtfully curated for you to connect with your little ones. You can even write them a special letter to show that they live on in your heart. We hope this garden brings you peace.  

All of us here at MISS are sending you love and light this Mother’s Day. You are not alone.