Did You Know? At MISS, We Support Both Partners Following Miscarriage
When a miscarriage happens, it's often assumed that support should focus on the person who was physically pregnant. While we fully appreciate that the experience of the woman or birthing person is unique and significant, miscarriage affects both partners, often in different but equally profound ways.
At MISS, we recognise that there is no one-size-fits-all approach to support. Every couple's relationship, communication style, and experience of loss is different. That's why we offer support in a variety of ways, whether that is individually, together as a couple, or a combination of both. We can work with you to find the approach that feels most helpful for your circumstances and needs.
Firstly, we can offer separate one-to-one support sessions for each member of a couple. Having dedicated time and space to talk can be incredibly valuable. Individual sessions allow each person to be fully heard, without feeling the need to protect, support, or filter their emotions for their partner. The spotlight is on their experience, their grief, and their needs.
We also know that many people grieve differently and have different coping mechanisms. One partner may want to talk openly, while the other may process their feelings privately. One may seek answers and understanding, while the other focuses on day-to-day coping. Neither approach is right or wrong, but having separate support can help each person explore their own thoughts, feelings, and coping strategies in a way that feels comfortable for them.
For some couples, individual support can also help reduce feelings of isolation. It can provide reassurance that their reactions are normal and that there is space for both experiences to be acknowledged and validated.
Miscarriage can affect relationships in many ways. While some couples feel closer, others find that grief creates distance between them. Different communication styles, coping mechanisms, and expectations can sometimes reveal cracks that were already there or create new tensions during an incredibly difficult time. This is why we can also offer sessions together. This can take the form of a one-to-one session as a couple.
Coming together in a supported environment can help couples better understand each other's experiences, improve communication, and rebuild connection. It offers a safe space to share feelings, listen to one another, and navigate grief as a team. Sometimes, simply hearing how grief is affecting your partner can foster greater compassion, understanding, and connection at a time when both of you may be struggling.
Whatever your experience of miscarriage, you do not have to face it alone. Whether you would benefit from individual support, support as a couple, or a combination of both, our team is here to walk alongside you every step of the way.